There are some things that cannot be forgiven because they are too horrible for us to comprehend. Nevertheless, most things, no matter how they have hurt us personally, can and should be forgiven.
It takes someone with a great heart to know when and how to do that. Forgiveness is not always a weakness. Besides, there is an old saying, you should forgive thy enemies, for it will confuse the hell out of them.
Forgiveness is one of those things that you cannot touch or see but it is real. Forgiveness is so powerful that it changes a person’s heart. It is important to forgive others for their wrongs so that they can be at peace and move on with their lives.
Many times, we struggle with forgiving someone because it feels like we’re agreeing with or condoning the hurtful behavior. Other times we may genuinely want to forgive someone but we just can’t seem to get past our anger and our resentment.
No. Everyone has the right to decide whether or not they forgive another person.
There are many examples of people who have forgiven others for horrendous crimes, such as shooting them or killing their child. If forgiveness ultimately instills peace or healing, there is no action too severe for forgiveness.
Forgiving another person is one thing, but what happens when we commit the offense ourselves? It’s important to take responsibility for mistakes, but intense guilt and shame aren’t a productive outcome in the long run. The process of self-forgiveness can be a painful challenge but deeply valuable. The key to this process is owning up to one’s mistakes, understanding why they occurred, and helping to rectify the situation.
You must begin by acknowledging that you are at fault and take responsibility for the hurt you caused. Reflect on why the event occurred and identify how to avoid a similar offense in the future. Then forgive yourself by focusing on the thought, saying it aloud, or writing it down.
Apologize to the person you wronged and try to improve their life in a meaningful way. But be ready because in some cases, the only way to help the person you wronged is to simply walk away and don’t look back.
If you are a religious person and you have read some of the bible, you know God forgives. If you believe in Jesus and that he died for our sins, then you have to accept that God loves you and forgives you. For me, that is a daily work in progress.
I currently have therapy with a chaplain, and the last two sessions have been discussing, what to do, what to expect, and understand, that God may indeed forgive you, but others do not have to, and you could find yourself on the outside looking in, and no one will ever open the door. You may indeed find that forgiveness is just not possible.